Judgement

Photo: In the depths of a beautiful rose


This is a good one. How many of you don't judge yourselves - like, ever.


Judging oneself seems to be a major pastime of our society.


It doesn't seem to matter what, why, how, when, if, maybe, the occasion, etc. but it feels like the ability to condemn and comment negatively about oneself is rampant.


And ,of course, there is the judging from others. This, unfortunately, is still apparent with people dealing with illness. Just within the breast cancer scene I am experiencing this. Like, what?!


Yep- the judging mind knows no bounds. There are so many treatment options to deal with in breast cancer. So even if you make your hair pulling, agonizing choice on how to proceed with breast cancer treatment (Oh - and this decision is only to save your life I might add), there will always be someone who knew better than you. Unbelievable, right! I would like to think so. But isn't the case.


So, I would like to say, respectfully and lovingly, to anyone who might know better than us, "Please don't tell me what I should do (or should have done)".

'Cos you don't know.


You really don't.


It's not your life at stake.


Actually, this is what we need to say to our own internal judger - "I love you but it's not necessary to talk to me like that". Good, eh! Understanding of one's own inner stuff gives rise to understanding others stuff, too. It's true! Try it.


I had a great therapy session yesterday with a wonderful new friend/helper. When people act or say inappropriate things my reaction can either to be a victim ('poor me') or get angry.


Both are not healthy reactions. In my talkings yesterday with my new friend I actualized a new powerful way to be healthy. "What you just said didn't work for me" (or "What you just did...").

May our internal criticizing nemesis evaporate and never come back - ever. (And the external ones, well.... we don't want folks to evaporate, way to "Harry Potter-ish". Let's do love instead to help disappear any negativity;)


I get to see the surgeon again tomorrow. A final check up. I have an internal suture showing thru' the skin - maybe get it removed and maybe get aspirated again; kinda sounds "Potter-ish" again).